You've gotta ask... 'WHY?'
Why do we do, what we do! Take someone who is a bit of a 'player'. They have slept with so many people they can no longer keep count.
You've gotta ask 'WHY?'
It could be any number of reasons - but try these four to get started...
- It's all about control. Sleep with someone then cast them aside. This person feeds off the power they get from being able to get what they want then dispose of the other person who may want more out of the relationship. You will see it in other parts of their life. They are manipulative at work. They want to control their bosses and undermine those who are competitors. It's all about control.
2. People Pleasing
- It's all about acceptance. This person is crying out for approval, their insecurity makes them do anything to feel loved and accepted. Sleeping with different people often gives this illusion - but soon they are left behind and they need find someone else to repeat that feeling of acceptance that a one night stand can give. You will see it in other parts of their life. They are hyper-sensitive to criticism. Any hint of not being accepted and approved of leads to despair.
- It's all about respect. This person doesn't care if they are liked, just as long as they are respected. They can gain a good reputation with their mates by sleeping with lots of people. You will see it in other parts of their life. They are always trying to make a name for themselves, trying to impress even when that means walking over people.
- It's all about the feeling. Sex is enjoyable and this person is driven by their pleasures. You will see it in other parts of their life. They are often lazy, they do what needs to be done so that they can get back to enjoying themselves.
There are a bucket of other reasons... what is important is that we ask the question 'WHY?' Even more important...
We must ask how the Gospel helps to deal with each of these?
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